The Bachelorette & The Bible: "Did God really say...?"


This from Entertainment News…

A trailer for upcoming episodes of THE BACHELORETTE features Hannah confronting Luke over his comments about her sexual activity.

"So let's talk about sex, and how the marriage bed should be kept pure. And let's say you have had sex with one or multiple of these guys. I would be wanting to go home," Luke told her.

"You don't get to decide what I can and can't do because you don't own me. Oh my god, I can't believe you just said that. I'm so mad. I don't owe you anything," she replied. "I believe that sex was made for a man and a woman in marriage, but I am having physical relationships, so like I have had sex, and honestly, Jesus still loves me."

"The lord made sex to be amazing, and guess what? A man does not control anything that I do. This is my decision," Hannah said in the trailer.


In the late 20th century (my era of teens & twenties), un-churched people of culture looked at sexually abstinent Christians, mocked them, and then went on their merry way living as they wished sexually. Christians recognized that they were called to be different and carried the burden of being called “weird” or “puritanical” about sex. 

Things are different in the 21st century, but it isn’t the first time it’s been like it is now, as the New Testament records this happening in the early church. Professing Christians are finding new and creative ways to justify ignoring Scripture and doing as they wish sexually. Reality TV stars are now saying proudly out loud what first century heralds of Christian grace were erroneously reported as saying.

Why not say—as some slanderously claim that we say—“Let us do evil that good may result”? Their condemnation is just! - ROMANS 3:8

Later in the same letter, the Apostle Paul tells the Romans without equivocation:

What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer? - ROMANS 6:1-2

A misinterpretation of grace says that God doesn’t care if we sin. Listen to enough cultural voices and you’ll hear people say that the notion of sexual purity is a way to control women. This is strange to me, because the standard is true for all: he, she or they. And while we’re on the subject, if this Luke character from The Bachelorette is the mature Christian he’s posturing to be, he should have enough wisdom to know that God likely wouldn't have him meet his spouse on a reality show.

You may hear some Christians chafe at the notion that their brothers and sisters in the Lord would “judge” them. But holding one another accountable is part of being in Christian community. The Apostle Paul wrote about this to the Corinthian church, which had serious issues with sexually immoral conduct. They had taken the approach of famous reality star Christians in saying, “What’s the big deal? God made sex to be enjoyed and I’m enjoying it!” 

Paul took exception with the Corinthian church’s passivity on the subject.

“I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people. What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? God will judge those outside.” - 1 CORINTHIANS 5:9-13

Paul says its not our job to judge people outside the church. But it IS our job to hold ourselves accountable. Why?

Because when a Christian stops listening to Scripture about important life issues, it’s just a matter of time before they consider Scripture outdated or out of touch with reality on a host of other subjects that our culture says are vital for thriving. 

This has absolutely been my experience with self-described Christian friends who determined that the Bible was not reliable or authoritative about its sexual ethic. The ethical dominoes start to fall under the logical gravity of Scripture’s irrelevance. Sometimes in very short order a previously-devoted, orthodox Christian doesn’t hold onto many (if any) of the beliefs they previously did.

It doesn’t stop there, either. To alleviate their consciences they begin to work with “hell fire & brimstone” zeal to “free” others from the evil “Matrix” of orthodox, Biblical Christianity.  

“Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.” - ROMANS 1:32

In case someone has whispered in your ear that Paul was a bad guy and his writings are not Spirit-inspired Scripture (which they did in the first century, too), Jesus also has very strong words for any of us who would abandon the truth and then crusade to get others to do the same.

“But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.” - MATTHEW 18:6

The Spirit of the Age is moving with great force to set the Children of God against the Scriptures. It is as old as humanity’s spiritual battle with none other than Satan himself, who was the first to utter these words to human beings: “Did God really say…?” (GENESIS 3:1)

The late Jerry Bridges once wrote that unless the Gospel you preach is at times misinterpreted as “lets sin so grace may increase,” you’re likely not preaching the same Gospel as Paul. For clarity’s sake, here is Paul’s final thought for the day about the grace of God:

For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, while we wait for the blessed hope—the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good. - TITUS 2:11-14

Chuck Ryor